Dating after breast cancer

27 Apr

It was tiring every few weeks or months to become familiar and comfortable with the change in the way I saw myself and the way others saw me.Woman B: I was relieved that the painful thing was finally coming out of me.It was a single mastectomy on my right side with a small lumpectomy on my left side. I wasn't scared of surgery: I was very sad my breasts I had always known were going to be gone.Woman A: I knew for about three months I was going to have surgery. The sadness for my natural breasts was hard to cope with in the few days before surgery.I miss my nipples daily, but the idea of fake nipples made from my skin honestly was very weird for me.I have a problem with things that aren't real or natural. I never wore a wig when I lost my hair [from chemo].I got a lot of attention the past year, and the thought of having more attention because not having breasts was stressful. Woman C: I definitely wanted reconstruction since only one side was removed. However, I had so little extra skin after the mastectomy (my surgeon cut into my chest wall and couldn't get a clear margin) that I had a ridiculously painful tissue expander in my chest for a full year.My (first) reconstruction happened almost exactly one year after the mastectomy.

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I mean, who needs that kind of drama when your life is distilled down to survival?

Ironically, he came back around six weeks later claiming to be single and wanting to help during my chemo treatment. He saw things that no one should ever have to watch their partner go through.

To this day, I'm not sure how he still finds me beautiful!

Woman A: I've been with my boyfriend, whom I live with, for the last three years.

We had been together for about 2 1/2 years at the time of surgery. Woman C: I had been seeing someone for over a year who was also involved with another woman.