Online dating effects relationships

28 Jan

More choices, more relationships, and more socializing open up new kinds of opportunities that wouldn’t have existed without dating apps and websites.A 2012 study found that the Internet has allowed users to find partners more easily, especially homosexuals and middle-aged people who operate in a “thin market.” The big question is whether marriages that originate online work out in the long run. Some studies suggest that American marriages that begin online are slightly less prone to collapse than those who met offline. Nonetheless, there’s an inherent problem with how these online relationships begin – at least, from a Nietzschean perspective.Another group of neurobiologists found that levels of hormones such as cortisol change upon falling in love and return to normal levels after 12 to 18 months.Other researchers found that people in a relationship for 28.8 months on average appeared less intensely in love than those who had been in love for 7.4 months.This ignores the fact that romantic passion dissolves over time. But most arrive at the same conclusion: it doesn’t last forever.Nietzsche likened it to an engraving that fades when bare fingers continually touch it. A group of Italian scientists found that neuropeptides – molecules associated with the euphoria of love – returned to normal levels within 12 to 24 months of being in a romantic relationship.

More than 10 percent of American adults – and almost 40 percent of people who identify as “single and looking” – are using them.

Nietzsche warned that by presenting ourselves in highly curated ways, we risk becoming victims of our own acting skills because we have to our masks in order to sustain the illusions we create. (A study in 2002 found that the few people who reveal their “true” selves online create more enduring friendships.) If lovers were better friends, relationships would be healthier.

Great friends support and encourage each other to look beyond themselves, to achieve their goals and to become better people.

Whatever the lucky number, the reality is that over one-third of marriages do not make it to a 25-year silver anniversary.

And even without the work of social scientists at hand, Nietzsche understood that, in many cases, romantic passion fades.