Scruffy guys dating

23 Feb

My username combines my first name and a nearby street.

The street name carries connotations (like Soho in NYC), and it reflects the sort of person I am, the type of interests I have, etc.

He probably majored in Physical Education, and he gets by doing small-scale art projects for local coffeehouses.

Meaningless and erroneous conversations about books and architecture enjoyed while he strums his guitar leave you swooning.

Then one day, you find yourself lying by the resort pool in his waterfront building, half-drunk at noon and wondering where your kid is. Single Mom Souvenir: You walk away from this one with a higher standard for chivalry and a lower standard for being "cultured." You need a guy who can laugh at a fart joke -- or hell, come up with one on his own. The Divorced Dad At first it seems the two of you have much in common.

You're both single working parents who love films and food -- what are the chances?

As someone who has been an online dating coach since 2003, I’d venture to guess that I’ve not only seen more usernames than just about anyone on the planet, but I’ve written more of them as well.

Why do I think that usernames make a difference, when everyone knows that it’s all about the profile and photo?

Bobbi had a farm with geese in the yard and instead of using The Horse Whisperer, which was way too overdone, we changed one word to great effect. It’s in Volume 2 of my Finding the One Online audio series, and is the cherry on top of your new online dating experience.And when your ideal partner is scrolling through hundreds of names – Sally102, Jen NYC1, Lawyer Gal – a great username can be the very reason that someone contacts you. And you become convinced that usernames don’t matter. In my opinion, a username should be a pun or a play on words. Wine Not – for the wine aficionado Lady Go Go – for the world traveler Bach To Bach – for the classical music enthusiast Tender Legal – for the soft-hearted lawyer See the common thread?Most people take one of two wrong tacks when coming up with an online dating username: 1) Putting ZERO thought into it: Bill10247, Claire T, Ally Cat 2) Putting minimal thought into it, using a literal description: Tall Doctor, Gorgeous Goddess, Fun2Be Around The problem with these efforts, of course, is not that they’re “bad”, but rather that they’re BORING. All of them are plays off of real names, idioms or catchphrases, which is why they evoke smiles from readers.If I get back into online dating, I’ll probably try to come up with something more clever.Usually I’ll steer clear of someone’s name for the same reason I’ll steer clear of their profile …